Emotions can run high during a divorce, and it can often seem nearly impossible for two soon-to-be ex-spouses to reach an agreement. Mediation can be a big help in these situations.

In divorce mediation, a neutral third party will help the two parties make a decision that is fair to both sides. The mediator is trained in helping to resolve the issues in a divorce, and can explain to the parties their legal rights and legal options. However, unlike in a trial, the ultimate decision is made by the parties themselves.

Proponents of mediation say that the process has many advantages over traditional litigation. Since the parties themselves craft their agreement, they tend to feel greater control over their outcomes. Proponents of mediation say that people who go through mediation are also more likely than people who go through trial to comply with all the terms of their divorce order. Mediation is typically much less expensive than going to trial, as well.

However, mediation isn’t always the best choice for every person. In some divorces, the couples are too angry at each other to reach agreement on their own. In others, one spouse is adept at manipulating or intimidating the other, making it difficult for mediation to bring a fair result. In some cases, a history of domestic violence makes mediation inadvisable.

If you are considering divorce, speak with an attorney with experience in family law to see what options are available to you. Even if you choose mediation, the help of a skilled attorney can be crucial to your chances of reaching a fair agreement.